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Peace in the Waiting

My goodness it has been a while since I’ve blogged here! I’ve had an uptick of followers though and thought I ought to say hi! So, hello there! I am a little better at blogging on my new site: https://www.arkansasbirthphotography.com/blog (well, not all that much better…ha!)

Since my last post here we’ve just been living life and adjusting to our new perimeters. Slowly. Ha. We arrived back from Crete mid August and at that time I started pursuing my photography business in earnest (since I can legally work in the states!) My passion for documenting the stories of women/childbirth/babies/family has certainly kept me busy since!

I also applied and was accepted as a volunteer photographer with Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep. I had always been convinced I wouldn’t know how to deal with people going through a season of grief, but I felt an unmistakable pull towards these particular families who must say goodbye to their tiniest members. My nerves peaked right before my first session but after entering the room and introducing myself to the parents I felt nothing but peace. It is unlike anything I’ve ever experienced, this certainty that I have been empowered specifically to give this gift, that I am EXACTLY in the place and time where my creator wants me to be. I find such incredible beauty and rest in the presence of these sleeping angels. There is no fear or sadness in doing my job: I know they are back with the one who knit them together in the first place, for a purpose – however obscure it may seem to us here on Earth. The incredible honor of being one of the few people to meet these precious little souls is not lost on me and I think about them daily.

In other news: my hubby transitioned from active duty to the reserves upon arriving back to the states but has been on active orders almost the entire time. It has definitely been an interesting transitional period, especially with starting a small business and a volunteer commitment thrown in the mix. We have dealt with a few separations but in all it hasn’t been so bad. We are still waiting for a more permanent feeling situation in career and housing but we did upgrade to that mini van we wanted just before we found out about Europe! Cici is a lovely Toyota Sienna and is such a joy to drive. We just returned from a three week road trip where we tested her out and scratched our travel itchy feet a little ❤

Our boys are doing great and we look forward to getting more settled so that we can move in the direction of becoming foster parents, which has been a dream of ours for years.

Many situations in our lives may still be in flux but along with my village’s support and commiseration, I am doing better at finding peace in the waiting.

 

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Whisper

Last night I couldn’t sleep again. So I decided to do more baby carrier research, as you do. While digging through a message board about carriers people recommend sharing between tall husbands and short wives, a poster’s signature happened to catch my eye. It said she was the proud mom of two kids; and one happens to be a five year old battling a brain tumor. The big C word. Every parent’s worst nightmare. As I went to sleep I thanked God for my healthy children and thought – man, I bet that woman would give anything to only be worrying about a deployment. How blessed I really am.

This morning Dan came home with a funny look on his face. I asked what was wrong and his answer didn’t really surprise me; although I think my heart did stop for several beats. He has been moved up to primary. We are now truly looking down the barrel of our first deployment. I knew he didn’t want to tell me, didn’t want to start the morning with that news, but he couldn’t keep it from me either. As strange as it seems in upsetting moments, time does continue on: we moved on with our day. As we have become accustomed to, as soon as hubby’s boots were off we gathered on the love seat for devotionals and prayer. Rowan’s devo was about God’s joy in any circumstance and our couples devo was about love overcoming all. Whisper. Whisper. The devotionals and the story from last night – I heard it loud and clear; the still, small voice whispering in my ear that all is well, that God will be with us through everything.

I would like to say I’ve been fine for the rest of the day, that I felt God’s peace in the situation and have already cried most of my tears in preparation for this moment. Instead, I had a massive panic attack and decided to go to Target. I’m afraid that ruins the story, but hey – truth in advertising 😉

For the record, I am less panicked now. Specifically, I’m feeling a strange mix of:

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More on this and other stories, after the break.

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Absence

The sky looks pissed
The wind talks back
My bones are shifting in my skin
And you my love are gone

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I’m enjoying the stormy weather this week. I don’t really want the sun to shine while I’m processing the news that our first deployment is on the horizon. Hubby found out last week he is alternate for an upcoming deployment. Hopefully he won’t have to go – but since he could be substituted at any time, we have to prepare as though he is. It won’t hurt to prepare either way: if he doesn’t go now he will for the next. His rotation is up.

Finding out about an impending deployment seems an awful lot like finding out you are going to have a perfectly healthy limb arbitrarily amputated. You know it’s coming and you know it’s going to hurt. You can already feel the pain. You go about your life and little everyday things remind you how much they will suck once that limb is gone. Forget about imagining special or difficult stuff. Thinking about those will just crush you.

I’ve been surprised by the force of my emotions on this one. I’m an army brat and I knew what I was getting into from the start. Or at least I thought I did. I’ve been a single mom. I’m totally capable of going it alone. Or at least I thought I was. Did you know high stress is a risk factor for mastitis? Me either until the high fever struck. That was fun. Particularly since hubby is still on nights and I pretty much had to go it alone while sick. A circumstance that prompted even more tears at the realization of the inherent foreshadowing.

So I’ve been processing and preparing my head. Lots of googling and a Pinterest board later and I feel like I might be capable of surviving this without too much bitterness or a nervous breakdown.

Consider it all joy, my brethren, when you encounter various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance. And let endurance have its perfect result, so that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing. (James 1:2-4 NASB)

     God has this all in hand. We will try not to let dread destroy our joy in this pre-deployment phase.

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And when it comes we will take one day at a time. Some days I’m sure I’ll be ok. And on others I won’t. Sometimes it’s ok to not be ok. And I’m ok with that.

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